I really do not expect this to be the way of things.

3 Apr

So the Ferber method basically says you put the baby down awake without whatever X is that you’re trying to disassociate from sleep (pacifier, bottle, sleeping in their own bed, etc). If the kid cries, you let them cry for 5 minutes then go in and comfort for no more than 2-3 minutes. No holding, no picking up, etc. You just sort of stand around feeling useless, pat them and shush them and say nice things like, “I promise we’re not trying to kill you” and then you walk back out, even if they’re still crying or if they escalate when you leave. Then if they continue to cry, you wait 10 more minutes and go back in for the 2-3 minute period to comfort the child again. The purpose of these comfort sessions is supposedly to reassure the child you haven’t abandoned them but it’s really only to comfort you because I’ll tell you now, the kid ain’t buying it. After THAT period of going back in and trying not to cry while you reassure the child you still love him and hope to death he doesn’t throw up from the SCREAMING, you leave and wait 15 minutes. At that point you stick to 15 minute increments until he falls asleep.

Thankfully, Eli only made 11 minutes into the first 15 minute interval. True, he cried and wailed and coughed for about half an hour straight but then he fell asleep 4 minutes before we were due to go back in. Now it’s slightly over three hours later and we have not had to go in at all. He’s woken up briefly, twice–once he cried for about 10 seconds and later again to sort of whimper a little but he fell back asleep quickly both times.

As the title says, I really don’t think it’s going to be this easy at all–we still have one more bottle to get through and the rest of the night but I’ve really never seen him sleep quite this hard. I’m keeping my fingers crossed.


One Response to “I really do not expect this to be the way of things.”

  1. Lolli April 4, 2009 at 7:11 am #

    The first time is the hardest, hang in there

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